I'm not the type of person who rips the band-aid off in one quick motion. I couldn't even bring myselft to wax a second strip off my legs. While I can see the wisdom of getting the pain over with quickly, I would rather avoid it completely - or at least ease into it.
When it comes to communication, I'm not really any different. It is my natural instinct to avoid confrontation with the key people in my life. I usually overlook any negative emotions that come up because I don't want to rock the boat. As it turns out, this is not a particularly effective approach to communication, in the long run. What starts out as something small has a tendency to fester and grow into something much larger than it should be.
It has often seemed to dangerous to express any negative feedback or emotions. Lately, I've been pushed out of my comfort zone, both personally and professionally. It has not come easy to me, in fact, I would rather have run for the hills than face these situations but luckily the other people involved didn't let me off the hook. They prodded me and coaxed me into being honest about my feelings and they did the same.
Not only did I survive these uncomfortable experiences but I'm now grateful that I wasn't allowed to take the easy route of avoidance. Every one of those experiences has allowed my relationship to grow into something stronger and more positive than it was before. I see now that by avoiding the confrontation all of these years I have been dishonest in my relationships. I claim that I want a partnership with someone else but how do I expect that to happen if I can't show him the respect of being honest about my feelings - good and bad?
So it comes down to this: am I willing to rip the band-aid off? As difficult as it is, yes. So here it goes - deep breath - 1...2...3...go!
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